Kampmeeting - Through the Lens of a Parent

I have a daughter, *Sophia, 14 years old, who is a member of the LGBTQ+ community. She’s bright,
energetic, and social who happens to be bisexual.

When I first learned that Sophie identified as bisexual, I was devastated. I knew that most importantly I
would always love my child. Based on that foundation, I started to read, watch, and learn anything I
could about the LGBTQ+ community. While searching for answers, I watched “Seventh-gay Adventists”
and found out about SDA Kinship. To my delight, I learned that a Kampmeeting was scheduled in a few
months near my home. I signed up and Sophie agreed to attend at least some of the meetings.

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Celebrating SDA Kinship Families & Friends - October 2023

Approaching 50 years ago, several faithful SDA rainbow members decided to gather and connect for support and friendship. As the word spread among those loving folks, the first Kinship Kampmeeting was held in Arizona with support from caring pastors, friends, and Kinship members. 

Today, SDA Kinship reaches around the world to many cultures, languages, and geographies. A successful, meaningful European Kinship Meeting was just held and our North American Kampmeeting will soon occur in Southern California. Gathering together with understanding and caring members, families, and friends is a strong reflection of the Jesus spirit implanted in all of us willing to love and support. 

October is our Kinship Awareness Month to recognize, enhance, and support the Kinship mission. 

In recent years, families with rainbow members have connected and shared with each other. So, in addition to recognizing and supporting all our wonderful Kinship rainbow members, Carolyn and I want to also recognize and support all of our families and friends members who have joined over the past few years. 

Many people haven’t realized that every rainbow person comes from a family. When a faithful SDA rainbow member is rejected or belittled, that also causes rejection and emotional discomfort in their family members. Incorrect knowledge and decisions cause health and emotional issues throughout the family. It is further complicated when a faithful SDA employee, pastoral or otherwise, is forced to hide or reject their rainbow family member whom they love and desire to support. 

Over the past five years, our families and friends membership has more than doubled with new members joining weekly. We have new connections around the world. It has been very meaningful watching families connect through the monthly Families & Friends Round Table Zoom discussions—often followed up with families connecting personally and supporting each other. Information shared through monthly articles and updated professional reports has also assisted family members to more fully understand the real physiological sources of varied sexualities. It is not a choice. 

We all desire and deserve acceptance, support, and a loving environment—not a rejecting, non-supporting human judgmental faith environment. Together, loving and caring families, friends, and rainbow members can create that safe, supportive, and modern environment which includes all humans without judgements and rejections. 

Thank you, SDA Kinship, for existing and lovingly supporting all of our members. Let’s double and quadruple Kinship membership, awareness, and impact. 

Remember, “Jesus never looked the other way—and neither should we!”
— John and Carolyn Wilt, Families & Friends Coordinators


Message from the Vice President - October 23

I was startled when Floyd reminded me that October is Kinship Awareness Month. So many of you live in my mind and in my heart so much of the time, that it seems like it’s always Kinship month for me. When I think about the ways Kinship is important to me—well, it’s you. Plain, simple, complex, hopeful, frustrated, inspiring, loving you. This month, there are some people I want to tell you about and some I will leave to their privacy.

  • Ruud: You Are Invited and You Are Safe with Me is beautiful because of you. And that’s only the start. The rest of you will have to meet him to understand.
  • Colin: You made a film and also made illustrated instructions so I could find my way into 21st-century Zoom.
  • Ivy: You teach me cultural humility and make sure I get these notes done.
  • Tom: You teach us about THOSE texts and other biblical conundrums with humor, gentleness, brilliance, and grace.
  • Tanja: You are the boarding school roommate I never had. We’re working on getting a book group going. 
  • Verna-Lee: I am in awe of your courage.
  • Bruce and Eddie: Well, you know I love you. Thank you for being big brothers. You, David, and Terry were the first people who taught me Kinship was home.
  • Ingrid and Frieder: There are few words. I am in awe of you and care for you deeply.
  • Jens: I learn from the courage and grace of your journey. 
  • Pam: Oh, my goodness. You have reminded my heart that everyday funny chit-chats are possible. You help me survive Lorraine’s death. 
  • Kirsten and Eileen: You teach me about so many ways people can be safe. 
  • Mwole: Yep, I would have followed you over the rails of that horse cart . . . and I don’t do that for just anyone.
  • Stefan and Joachim: I cannot imagine a September vacation without you or Friday nights without photos of your Irish . . . well, your Irish way of welcoming the Sabbath.
  • James: I tell lots of people that one of your first messages to my post-surgical self was, “We’re praying for you, and can I see a copy of the X-ray?” Also, I do love arguing theology with you.
  • Jacquie: Thank you for your particular, wonderful self and the hundreds of hours you proofread my work. 
  • Linda: For getting so very many missives mailed and doing it with love and grace. 
  • Kayla: Wow, thank you. I appreciate this time to get to know you.
  • Justin: You listen in many careful ways. It’s amazing to me that you can write what I think in my voice. What a gift. 
  • And then there is Floyd. Thanks for putting up with my sniffling when I thought we had blown Building Safe Places that year, for finding me a church when I didn’t want to leave, for taking me to my first leather bar (at 5:00 in the afternoon), for having faith in my visions as I figure out what they are, for caring so much about this Kinship community that you stretch my heart. What an amazing gift that I get to know you and work with you. 

. . . and dear wonderful readers I haven’t even told you about the surprising, amazing, laughter-and-tears-filled family reunion that was the European Kinship Meeting last month. I have never seen or been to anything like it. 

Clearly, what makes Kinship so valuable and healing is all of you. I wish for you unexpected blessings.

Take good care of yourselves for you are valuable and valued.

— Catherine Taylor, Vice President

Happy Kinship Awareness Month and LGBTQ+ History Month!

Every so often, I hear stories of LGBTQ+ people from the ‘90s, ‘80s, and earlier. I hear of how people were OUT, proud and loud before there were any rights and before the internet. When I hear those stories, it reminds me that I am part of a chain of LGBTQ+ people who have been paving the way for me to be able to come out and enjoy life so openly. 

When I attend Kinship Kampmeeting and hear stories from times past, from Kampmeetings in the ‘80s and ‘90s, and I see people and an organization that has been promoting LGBTQ+ rights in the Adventist Church for 40+ years, it makes me proud to be part of this legacy.

However, many SDAs still don’t know who we are, why we exist or why they should join our movement to help the SDA Church become more loving, accepting, and compassionate. Many Adventists still believe negative stereotypes, and many Adventist families think that they need to reject LGBTQ+ people, including their kids, because of their biblical worldview. 

I’m glad Kinship shows another way. Kinship promotes hope for LGBTQ+ Adventists to hold onto their faith, live in integrity, and be out and proud LGBTQ+ members of society. As Kinship Awareness kicks off, we aim to empower members with confidence and insight, so we can share Kinship more broadly. We can invite our family members, as well as church communities, to attend Kinship events and bring their questions and doubts. We’re not here to have all the answers, but we are willing to journey alongside people as they ask questions.

Stay tuned to our social channels as we share news and feel free to share our posts with others in your network. Together, we can spread the good news of SDA Kinship and work together to create authentic, safe spaces for our members and beyond. 

— Justin Mezetin, Director of Communications

P.S. I hope to see many of you at Kinship Kampmeeting this year in Riverside, CA, from November 9-12. See Kampmeeting.com for more info.

Message from the President - October 2023

October is my favorite month in the Kinship calendar because it is Kinship Awareness Month! It gives me 31 days to share my love for SDA Kinship and the work we are doing. But my voice is only one and can easily get drowned out by all the noise outside. 

Multiple voices have a much greater impact, whether it is your actual voice telling someone about what SDA Kinship means to you, or it is a social media post. Even following and liking the Kinship accounts on social media helps. Together, we can make a huge difference. The year started off with Sasa, an SDA pastor in Germany, coming out as bisexual in his Sabbath sermon. This opened the door to discussion, something we have been wanting for a long time. Yes, it increased the pushback “from the top,” but we are more concerned with getting the word out that we exist and inviting folks to dialogue with us. 

We have several action programs happening this month that we will share with you. Hopefully you can join in and help us. If you haven't asked for and received your Kinship Pride wristband and Kinship logo pin, please send me your mailing address so I can get yours sent to you. Wear them whenever you can . . . especially on Sabbaths to church. Let folks know you are not afraid to stand up for LGBTQIA+ Adventists. Wear the pin on your shirt wherever you go. 

We want everyone to know that Kinship exists and helps save lives. We also want Kinship to give you the affirmation and resources you need. We are a great organization, but we have room for improvement and we can only do that with your feedback. So let me know what Kinship can do to better support you. At the moment, we have a need for more members to become involved in leadership positions. Think about what talents you can share with Kinship and let's talk. Is there anyone who aspires to be the president of SDA Kinship? Work with me to take the reins and lead us to continue to grow stronger. We need a diverse team of leaders who have a vision. We need you!

Happy Kinship Awareness Month. Let's see how many folks we can share Kinship with in the next month!

— Floyd Poenitz, President
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Happy month of May!

There has been so much happening in the past few weeks. If you haven't joined in with the presentations, I hope you will check out our YouTube channel and catch up with the recordings there. Both the Washington Adventist University summit and the Adventist Peace Fellowship summit were inspiring, enriching, and filled with wonderful presentations and sermons. I highly recommend spending some time soaking in the presentation. Adventist Today had Kinship's own Ron Lawson for their Sabbath Seminar present on Colin Cook's Quest ministry—one that supposedly could change attendees from gay to straight. Of course, that was false advertising. It was quite an eye-opening presentation. These and many more can be found on our YouTube channel: //www.youtube.com/@SDAkinship" data-cke-saved-href="https://www.youtube.com/@SDAkinship">https://www.youtube.com/@SDAkinship.

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Journey - Chapter 31

It Is with Sadness That I Write This Letter


The 1986 Registered Retirement Savings Plan (RRSP) season took over at work in midwinter. To keep up with the volume of mutual fund purchases, my employer hired temporary staff. That was how I met Judith, a friendly, attractive woman with dark wavy hair. We hit it off immediately. I told her, with some hesitation, about my journey and my work with HA. As Judith worked in theatre, she assured me she was fine with my orientation, that I was not the first gay man she had ever met! We frequently had lunch together and occasionally met up outside of work.

“While together the other evening,” I wrote, “I allowed myself to feel anything that I was aware of.” My reserved personality, dampened by hyperconservative Christian caution, continued to make it difficult for me to relax and feel anything or think about anything sexual related to women. It was always a challenge to just be and linger over thoughts like kissing a woman! Writing as if I were practicing a mindfulness meditation, I continued, “I didn’t resist, but tried to let the thought of kissing her flow in and out of my mind freely.”

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In Memoriam Reino Korhonen Kullervo & Ingemar Fägerlind

Only recently did we receive the sad news of the death of Reino Korhonen (June 1943-January 2023) and his partner Ingemar Fägerlind (December 1935-December 2021). Reino was one of the 'founding fathers' of the European Kinship meetings. In fact, the first meeting took place at their home and garden in Tunhem, Västa Göthaland, Sweden, in July 2002, the beginning of an annual tradition that will continue for the 22nd time this year from 31 August to 4 September in Friedensau, Germany. There, we will fondly remember our dear friends 'from the very first hour' of our gatherings.

Ingemar (L) & Reino (R) in their garden, July 2002, during the first European Kinship Meeting

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Families and Friends

Helping Our Faith to Understand and Love 

As we watch our top faith leaders react and respond to genuine modern human situations, we see exposed many weaknesses, misunderstandings, and argumentative behaviors. Strong words; but we feel many of the top leaders understand and desire supporting modern loving decisions but are too “weak” to oppose narrow old-fashioned beliefs, which clearly reflect “misunderstandings” in the education and interpretations of biblical translations. “Argumentative” behaviors occur when one or more high-level leaders independently create one-sided committees with targeted purposes without listening and considering valuable and accurate modern information.

Over the past decades, these activities have occurred with many subjects and situations. For us, SDA Kinship, many decisions have been issued and committees have been formed to reject our family “rainbow” members and their families, too. Fortunately, our local church and our friends accepted our gay son, and we never encountered some of the mean and hurtful behaviors that are occurring today.

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Church Relations

Toymaker Mattel recently made history with its release of a Barbie doll with Down Syndrome. "This Barbie serves as a reminder that we should never underestimate the power of representation," said Kandi Pickard, president and CEO of National Down Syndrome Society.

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Message from the President

 Many of our SDA Kinship members are familiar with Carrol Grady, and those who have attended Kampmeeting may have had the opportunity of meeting her in person. Carrol was a pioneer in the Adventist community, advocating for women’s rights and for bringing about a better understanding of what it means for a parent to have an LGBTQIA+ child or loved one. Her book, My Son, Beloved Stranger, was groundbreaking and has been translated into several languages.

It was the first time a conservative Adventist mom and wife of an Adventist pastor and church leader, openly talked about and wrote about her journey of understanding and supporting her gay son. She dearly loved her Kinship family and was like a mother to so many of us. Her quiet and kind demeanor made it easy to talk with her. Personally, I got to know Carrol well because we worked a booth at many Adventist conferences, including the General Conference session in Toronto, before being banned. I well remember her sharing God’s love for His LGBTQIA+ children with anyone who walked past our booth and would listen to her. She was a force to be reckoned with. Carrol was woven into the fabric of Kinship and taught us how important our parents and allies are for Kinship’s ministry. 

After a recent fall, Carrol experienced a decline in health and passed away on March 24 in her home surrounded by her loved ones. Although her earthly life has ended, her light and the ministry she started will live on and on in each of our hearts. If you haven’t yet read her book, you can read it online at  https://www.sdakinship.org/en/stories or download the PDF. I highly recommend that you pass it on to your parents or family. I’m sure it will resonate with them like it has for so many others. 

There will be a memorial service for Carrol at the Bellevue, Washington, Adventist church on May 6 at 4 p.m. Pacific Time (US). 

Carrol, may you rest in peace until Jesus calls you from the grave and we will join you in a huge Kinship Kampmeeting under the Tree of Life. We will continue your work and ministry and never let your voice be silenced. Carrol, we love you. Let’s all join and spread the news that God’s love is unconditional for everyone. Carrol often said, “There is a special place in heaven for LGBTQIA+ folks who have endured the rejection and marginalization from the Seventh-day Adventist church.”

As Spring has arrived and we celebrate the resurrection and renewed birth, I hope we can also feel renewed as we bloom and blossom celebrating our genuine selves.

— Floyd Poenitz,  President
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Church Relations

Most Adventists grew up listening to sinister prophecies about people coming to take our Bibles. Hence the need to learn our memory verses, so we could defend our faith despite the absence of Bibles. We also heard rumors about Roman Catholics and apostate Protestants who would beat, imprison, and even kill those who insisted on worshiping on the seventh day of the week, God's true Sabbath.
My, how things have changed! Now it's not Bibles that are being banned; it's any book that fundamentalist Christians find objectionable, typically books about racial, gender, and ethnic diversity. State legislators in a frightening number of states are intentionally pushing legislation that would punish school teachers for teaching tolerance about gender orientation with fines and termination of employment.
Things in Africa are even more alarming. Several governments—with the support of Christian leaders (even Adventists)—support laws that seek to prohibit homosexual behavior with imprisonment, corporal punishment, and even death. A time of trouble indeed.
We have to be active and proactive. If we thought we lived in a tolerant, live-and-let-live society, we can think it no longer. People in power are seeking to marginalize those without power. We can't allow them to get away with it.
After World War II German pastor Martin Niemoeller reflected on the complacency that took place during the rise of Nazism: "First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out—because I was not a socialist. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out—because I was not a trade unionist. Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—because I was not a Jew. Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me."
Jesus spoke about protecting "the least of these" (Matt. 25:40). Everyone should have a voice; and we should use ours to make sure they do.

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Message from the President

There is a saying about "best laid plans." Sometimes life throws a wrench into the plans when you least expect it. The Kinship Board has been meeting pretty much via Zoom for the past couple of years. There are some discussions that just are best when they are in person. So we were looking forward to gathering together at a site on the East Coast where one of our allies has a large beach house they offered to us for free. A golden opportunity, until it wasn't. At the last minute, more than half the board could not travel on the planned weekend. So we agreed to go back to connecting via Zoom. At least for now. The key to life is being flexible and open to a scenario different from what we planned. So the in-person discussions will have to wait until another day when we can find a doable solution.

Board meeting is a time when we can look forward to and share what we want Kinship to look like and be doing in five years. My simple answer is much, much more exposure and awareness of SDA Kinship by Adventists around the world. The tricky part is how to accomplish this. If you have suggestions, please send them to me. What would you like to see the goals to be for SDA Kinship? Please drop me a note and share that with me. 

Social media is some of the most effective advertising we can do. If you haven't checked out (follow, like, subscribe, forward, retweet, etc.) what Kinship is posting, please do so. We are @sdakinship on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram; and on YouTube we are @sdakinshipint. Check out the Kinship Connects podcasts on your favorite podcast player. Alicia Johnston is producing a weekend YouTube video. Check it out. Also, Kendra has started Season 2 of IMAGEO GEI and she is sharing her relationship with Roxan! A must-hear! 

I really want to hear what you feel we need to be doing more of, or differently. Please let me know. 

Have a great March! And remember that when plans change, go with the flow and be flexible. Things will probably work out and possibly even better than you had planned for!


— Floyd Poenitz,  President
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Church Relations

Thank God for technology! When it works, it's definitely a blessing from heaven. When it doesn't work, well, it's not hard to imagine it coming from that other place.

When COVID closed churches and schools and prevented us from associating with friends and family members, Zoom and FaceTime gave us the means of connecting with others. Even though screen time was not as good as connecting in person, it was better than nothing.

The upside of digital communication is that distance is irrelevant. People on the east coast of the United States can attend Sabbath School and worship services on the west coast. Despite differences in time zones, webinars on dozens of topics are no further away than a computer keyboard. No airline ticket? No problem.

But an on-screen presence will never match in-person communication. The words, "Let us consider how we may spur one another to love and good works, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another" (Heb. 10:24, 25), were written long before COVID or Zoom were imagined. But they reveal an unalterable truth: we need each other.

Kinship is trying to identify congregations throughout the United States and the world that welcome and affirm members and friends of the LBGTQ+ community. Can you help us identify congregations where you feel welcomed and affirmed? Drop me a line and tell me about it. Of course, that will mean getting dressed and driving to a nearby church, but it will help us identify those who are truly welcoming and who just talk about it. You can reach me at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

Join me in being one of those who "spur one another on to love and good works."

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Message from the President

Dear Kinship Friends, 

As the focus on Kinship Awareness Month comes to a close, let’s continue to promote and talk about SDA Kinship and look for opportunities to tell others about SDA Kinship every month. If you have any stories to share about how you spread the good news of Kinship with others during the month, I would love to hear about it.

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Journey - Chapter 29

Homosexuals Anonymous—the Toronto Chapter


I arrived back in Ottawa from Reading, Pennsylvania, the Easter weekend of 1985. The Saturday before I moved to Toronto, I attended church. I started attending this congregation as a child in the mid-1960s. This was the church I always returned to whenever I came home for a visit. Most of the pillars of the church were farmers. Small-town folk made up the rest of the congregation of some forty people. To say everyone knew me was not an exaggeration. That makes it easier to understand how, with no warning as to the subject, when I asked to make an announcement from the front of the church, I was given permission to do so without hesitation.

Motivated by that sometimes-naïve Christian eagerness to “lay the truth out there” in personal witness, I announced I struggled with homosexuality, had attended Quest Learning Center hoping to remedy the problem, and that I was moving to Toronto to begin some kind of ministry.

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is under TWO weeks away. As we are planning to meet in person, the theme is "Together Again". The Kampmeeting team has worked hard to find diverse speakers and create an inspiring program. We are looking forward to seeing our members again, in person. Please visit the the Kampmeeting site at bit.ly/kampmeeting to get more information about speakers.

Registration is $200, and scholarships are still available. Saturday is Families and Friends day and registration for the day is FREELodging information and other details are available on the website.

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Open Call for New Leaders

An Open Letter From a Former Director of Women’s Interests, Former Vice President, Former President, Current Region Coordinator, Current Member At Large Board Member and Current Chair of the Nominating Committee for SDA Kinship International, Inc.


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Message from the President


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Every 365 days we’ve learned to celebrate a truly unknown event—the actual day and location of Christ’s birth. For hundreds of years, biblical and theological archeologists have searched and searched for precise, accurate evidence of when and where our beloved Christ was born. We wish them all well on their valuable searches and look forward to their successful discoveries,…

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