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Most of what characterizes my life today—work, family, and faith—looks little like what I thought it would when I graduated from college in 1980. Because of my sexual orientation, nothing is as I expected. I still identify as Seventh-day Adventist, but I do not have the same relationship with my church as I once had. I am open about my orientatio...n to most people, and I have been in a relationship for nearly twenty-five years. Don’t let that fact, however, lead you to make assumptions about my theology. That I am a professing Christian is applauded by some and questioned by others. LGBT acquaintances and some heterosexual friends often ask me why I continue to associate with a faith community that has had a checkered relationship with its LGBT members. Others wonder how I can consider myself a Christian while in a relationship. In addition to the why-do-I-continue and the how-can-I-consider-myself questions are a multitude of other questions that people have asked me over the years. Naturally, people want to know when and how I first became aware of my orienta­tion. Others are interested in my spiritual experience and how my faith and my orientation intersect and perhaps collide. Many questions revolve around my reparative therapy journey and how that impacted my belief in God and my relationship to the church. I am often asked about the pivotal moment I decided to stop trying to change my orientation and the events that led up to that moment. Related to that decision is the question of short- and long-term consequences. I’ve been asked about where I see God in the whole journey—before counseling, during counseling, and since accepting my orientation. And, finally, others want to know about my relationship, how it has evolved over the years, and the impact it has had on my life. More

Journey - Chapter 16

Journey - Chapter 16

The Day After - Part II

by Jerry McKay

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Journey - Chapter 15

Journey - Chapter 15

The Year of Before and After - Part II

It was midnight when I finished reading the Ministry interview and headed home. The familiar residential streets of Tokyo seemed different that night. My trance-like walk home was broken once by a brief exchange with a passing policeman whom I knew. I remember this odd detail because his greeting jolted me back into the present.

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Journey - Chapter 14

Journey - Chapter 14

The Year of Before and After - Part I

As my graduation approached, I should have been contacting conferences in Canada for a pastoral internship position. I was not. Instead, I returned to Japan, the only place I felt I could serve God and avoid the stress my yet unacknowledged orientation was creating. While my return was an acceptable option, it did not come from a place of strength.. 

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Journey - Chapter 13

Journey - Chapter 13

By Jerry McKay - Published November 2016 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 12

Journey - Chapter 12

By Jerry McKay - Published September 2016  in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 11

Journey - Chapter 11

By Jerry McKay - Published July 2016 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 10

Journey - Chapter 10

By Jerry McKay - Published June 2016 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 9

Journey - Chapter 9

By Jerry McKay - Published April/May 2016 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 8

Journey - Chapter 8

By Jerry McKay - Published February 2016 in Connection

Awareness of My Orientation

My orientation continued to manifest on a daily basis, and there were times when it in­truded noticeably. As in high school, it sometimes caused me to modify my be­havior. Four examples have stayed with me all these years.

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Journey - Chapter 7

Journey - Chapter 7

By Jerry McKay - Published January 2016 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 6

Journey - Chapter 6

By Jerry McKay - Published November/December 2015 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 5

Journey - Chapter 5

By Jerry McKay - Published October 2015 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 4

Journey - Chapter 4

By Jerry McKay - Published September 2015 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 3

Journey - Chapter 3

By Jerry McKay - Published August 2015 in Connection                                                                                   

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Journey - Chapter 2

Journey -  Chapter 2

By Jerry McKay - Published June/July 2015 in Connection

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Journey - Chapter 1

Journey - Chapter 1

By Jerry McKay - Published May 2015 in Connection

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