What about change as an option?

It is not unusual to want to change when a person discovers his or her true sexual orientation. After all, it is not easy to reconcile deeply cherished beliefs, goals and life plans with a seemingly incompatible sexual orientation that occurs without choosing it. The questions of choice and change, however, don't involve what one's sexual orientation will be, but how one accommodates his or her given sexual orientation.

A very small percentage of gay people either decide to remain celibate or to assimilate a heterosexual lifestyle-often through marriage-and have been able to do so.

For the vast majority, attempts to suppress their natural sexual orientation for a sustained period have proven unfulfilling and counterproductive, if not impossible. For some, investigating the possibility of change is important for our development and understanding, but almost all of us eventually come to accept ourselves as we are, rejoicing in the sexuality that is natural for us. We are gay as well has happy, gay as well as Christian.

On this topic, the American Psychological Association states that scientific evidence does not show that conversion therapy works and that it can do more harm than good. Changing one's sexual orientation is not simply a matter of changing one's sexual behavior. It would require altering one's emotional, romantic and sexual feelings and restructuring one's self-concept and social identity.

Regardless of your decision, please know that we will support you if you decide an attempt to change is the right approach for you. You might be amazed by how closely you are able to identify with our members who traveled this road to self-understanding.

We believe and hope you feel a great Kinship by relating to others who struggled with similar issues.