Connection Blog

Kinship Statements and News Items of interest to the LGBTIQ+ Community

STEPS FORWARD AND STEPS BACK

STEPS  FORWARD  AND  STEPS  BACK Dear Friends, Since Kinship was founded, we have often found ourselves struggling to share our narrative, our stories, of what it means to be both gay and Adventist. Misinformation and confusion spread quickly, and the truth is often slower to be shared. We strive to present the diversity of experiences, voices, and individuals within the LGBTIQ community as authentically as possible. Our mission, always, has been nothing more and nothing less than to affirm that diversity because of this important truth—everyone is created in the image of God. February was a busy month! There have been s......
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FROM THE PRESIDENT

P3100060 125Every year I go through a wishful thinking stage as Christmas approaches. I’m not wishing for gifts but rather for traditions that my person and I can participate in and build on each year, traditions that mean something special to us. As a child, I was one of four children until my parents adopted two more boys. And then we were six! It was pretty awesome being part of a large family. Each Christmas, our parents would put a sheet of paper up for us kids to write the list of gifts that we wanted from Santa. Because we were a ......
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MEET PETA (pronounced peh-tah)

peta 250TELL US A LITTLE ABOUT YOURSELF. I am 60 years old. I live in Sydney in New South Wales, Australia. I am the T in the LGBTIQ spectrum. I completed transitioning this past July. I have been on Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) for over two years, and I have lived as a woman for that long. What was it like growing up LGBTIQ for you? How I identify is a longer story. Growing up in a fundamentalist Christian home made it harder to come out of the closet. I didn't grow up in the Seventh-day Adventist milieu but came into that......
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BEING A MAN

14699917 1359080257443282 1127155931 n 125Josue de Castro Filho is a doctoral student at the University of São Paulo in Brazil studying gender and sexuality among religious issues. In this article, he shares how masculinity is (re)constructed between the gay men who interact on the SDA Kinship Men's Facebook group. As a gay man, growing up in a very conservative environment is sometimes very difficult, especially if you are the pastor's son. The fact that some of your desires and feelings are different from most of the other men in the community brings questions that challenge your sense of identity as a member of a specific ......
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CHURCH RELATIONS

IMG 0794Dave Ferguson, Director of Church Relations Kinship has a list of welcoming churches on our website. But we know we need to constantly update that list. We’d appreciate your input as members about local Adventist churches in your area. Whether you are LGBTIQ, a family member, or a friend, we would love to have you share with us information about a congregation you attend. We realize not all churches are ready to accept LGBTIQ members at the same level. We currently have three categories.  However, those categories have needed clarification. While sticking with three categories, the new definitions would be: • Safe Chu......
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TREASURER’S REPORT

KarenLee2016 best 125Dear Kinship Members, SDA Kinship International has been affirming diversity within the Adventist community and around the world for nearly 40 years. Kinship continues to speak with and for LGBT+ current and former Seventh-day Adventists and those who support them. This is accomplished through local meetings, annual conferences, articles, books, and other media; outreach with denominational educators and ministers; letters to members’ local churches; and statements on critical public issues. At Kampmeeting in July, we made our annual call for offerings and pledges. We reached half of our goal of $90,000. As a result, we have had to cut back programs and e......
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FAMILY

dwidmer 125Post Season Here we are in the baseball post season again. It is amazing to watch teams make their final out...the out that sends them home. There's the cheering and high-fiving from the winning team. Then there's the downcast faces of the losing team. No matter what, one team moves on and one team goes home. What's most interesting is the post-game interviews. No one blames the person who made the last out. Instead, it is recognized that it is a team sport. "We didn't capitalize on our opportunities…. We left everything on the field…. We are a good team, but the......
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FRIENDS & ALLIES

sdakfriends 300Why I am an LGBT+ Ally Though, like most Adventists, I was raised without an accepting view of LGBT+ people, I have always felt uncomfortable with that theology. Even during my young fundamentalist years when I would have repeated the rejecting talking points, I felt deep down that there was something wrong about the lack of acceptance the church taught me. In college one of my dear friends came out, left the church and the school, and I never heard from him again. I went around to various theology professors asking them to help me understand it. Every one of them......
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YOUTH

IMG 0796As Youth Director, I found it exciting to see several people under 30 from both North and South America join SDA Kinship after Kampmeeting in June. As both Kinship Director of Youth Interests and Spiritual Relations Officer for the Intercollegiate Adventist GSA Coalition (IAGC), I have been working on making Burman, an Adventist university in Alberta, Canada, a safe place for LGBTIQ students. Currently, 12 professors have Safe Spaces stickers on their office doors. Safe Spaces is a joint initiative of the Alberta Teachers' Association and the Society for Safe and Caring Schools and Communities. The Safe Spaces initiative includes a......
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FROM THE PRESIDENT

P3100060 125The other day, I noticed the October 9 Washington Post Parade magazine cover. It had a picture of the earth with the title “Awe” and caught my attention. The cover article talks about how feeling awe may be the secret to our health and happiness. But what exactly is awe? As psychologist Dacher Keltner explains in the article, “Awe is the feeling of being in the presence of something vast or beyond human scale, that transcends our current understanding of things.” Keltner heads the University of California (Berkeley)’s Social Interaction Lab. He studies emotions and helped Facebook to create its new “like” bu......
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